There’s a new app out there called Sarahah. It basically allows individuals to send anonymous messages and comments to an individual.
Michael started using it and encouraged me to try it, so I downloaded it and created my profile.
Now this post isn’t about the app. It’s about my first message I received in the first 20 minutes.
My first message was the following:
This made me pause and think. I’ve been racking my mind around how to approach processing this, and this morning I share a response:
To all the people I interact with and engage with. I acknowledge that this is the feeling some get when there is discussion and dialogue or when I post on my platforms.
It is never my intention to make anyone uncomfortable and I am not hostile or aggressive on purpose. I am passionate about life, pandas and the growth and development of people, including myself. Societal and political issues, identity development and social justice and equity work is very personal, messy, and emotional work and it shows in my conversations and work.
But I encourage everyone I engage with to push back and get into the mess of this whole world with me and to be ready to be passionate, emotional and logical about all of it together.
I’ll be honest, and do not see the hostility and aggressiveness in my posts and comments, but am reflecting on how it may come across to the external world so I can improve my engagement.
However, over the past few months, I’m learning that it is not my responsibility to ensure everyone’s feelings are not hurt or to ensure that everyone is comfortable or ensure that the conversation is easy.
This work and this life is not unharmful, comfortable or easy.
But it is my responsibility to learn and understand another person’s perspective.
I will never tell anyone what to think or believe, and I ask the same.
I will never just dismiss your perspective, but I will push back if there is another perspective for you to consider or to clarify my perspective.
I will get emotional.
I will not always agree but I will agree that we have different points of view.
I will always find both the common and uncommon ground.
I will be personal and vulnerable in all of it.
I also challenge those uncomfortable, hurt or offended by my posts to step back and ask:
Why am I uncomfortable?
Why is this conversation hard?
Why is this hurtful?
Am I offended by the words or the issue?
You all know me. You know I do my best to understand and be open. You know that I am, though emotional, mostly even tempered when having dialogue. If I’m coming off as hostile and aggressive, ask yourself why. Check in with me. Step back and connect the dots. Work to center it around the conversation and not how you’re receiving it or how I’m sharing it. If I’m coming off as hostile and aggressive then there’s a reason. It’s hit something personal and/or emotional. It’s those moments I need good two way dialogue with people who are willing to get into the mess of it all.
So thank you to the individual who sent me this message. It has helped me clarify my approach and work in life, and that I really am a passionate, dedicated, and aware individual. It has also confirmed that being emotional, personal, vulnerable and honest is how I approach this life. It’s also confirmed that I must be doing something good because if these conversations were easy or comfortable for everyone then they really weren’t good conversations to begin with.
Until next time,
Peace, Love and Pandas!