SCOTUS Hearing Ponderings

Most, if not all, of America is paying attention to the confirmation hearing of the Honorable Amy Coney Barrett. As expected we are witnessing the politics, election, and partisan divide play out on our screens. My social media pages are full of conversations about the hearing. With the wide variety of people in my lifeContinue reading “SCOTUS Hearing Ponderings”

My 10th Anniversary

So I celebrated my 10th Anniversary of coming out this year. I came out in 2009. Now, back then I thought I came out like this:   But now reflecting back (and for those of you who know me) it was probably more accurate of this:   Cest la vie.   My journey is oneContinue reading “My 10th Anniversary”

All in the Last Name

I’ve been asked many times why I decided to change my last name to Hercliff-Proffer. To be honest, it took me the full 21 months of my engagement to decide and even then it wasn’t until 3 weeks before when Michael applied for our license and with much frustration told me that I had toContinue reading “All in the Last Name”

#NationalComingOutDay2017

Over the past few years, I’ve shared different components of my coming out story and experiences on this day each year. But this year, I want to share some of the lessons from coming out that I have learned over the years to perhaps helps any one else working through this process. National Coming OutContinue reading “#NationalComingOutDay2017”

The Justification of Gay

One of my fraternity brothers posted this on their Facebook this morning. It’s a really great TedTalk. It’s an interesting approach to the justification that homosexuality is genetic and not a choice.   Now, while I still unpack it, as I watched and listened to this TedTalk, I found myself thinking there was a foundationContinue reading “The Justification of Gay”

The Symbol of Pride

Hey y’all! Pride Month continues and lots to write about. Today though I’m writing to work through some thoughts on the new Philly Pride Flag which has added brown and black stripes to represent the LGBTQIA POC community. First, a little history: The first Pride Flag was flown in 1978 in the San Francisco GayContinue reading “The Symbol of Pride”

Kicking Off Pride Month with a Response

So I’m kicking off Pride Month with a local issue. Yesterday, NBC25 reported about an Eaton County farmer who was denied a space at the East Lansing Farmer’s Market for his decision to not allow same-sex marriages at his apple farm venue. So in true Brian fashion, I have to throw in my two cents.Continue reading “Kicking Off Pride Month with a Response”

A Response

I stumbled across a blog post on Facebook early this week that I’ve decided to respond to. Below is the post (in italics) with my response (in bolded orange): It has been said that in marriage, the pain and stress of divorce is greater than even the pain of losing a spouse to death. I believeContinue reading “A Response”

“I will push back”: Thoughts on Those Who Fight Against Non-Discrimination Policies

As we all know, recently there has been an uptick in the debate on LGBTQ rights and federal and state non-discrimination legislation and policies. The arguments for adding LGBTQ into non-discrimination legislation and policies are basically: FOR non-discrimination legislation and policies: It allows for equal protections for LGBTQ identified individuals. AGAINST non-discrimination legislation and policies: It infringesContinue reading ““I will push back”: Thoughts on Those Who Fight Against Non-Discrimination Policies”

The Paradox of Tolerance

I was speaking with my dad about my wedding and what he wanted his role in it to be, or not to be as it turned out. (He stated he would rather just sit in the back and experience the wedding. Kinda like with a baseball game or concert apparently…). Well, after going back andContinue reading “The Paradox of Tolerance”